Why is it so Fucking Cool to share a hobby with your partner?
Written By Viktoria Fajta aka CHERRY BOMB
Every good relationship should be built on friendship first, right?! So, if we think about it on a very basic level, all we need is a friend who can do awesome things with us without constantly having to ask for them to participate. They just simply want to join in because they love us, but mostly because they want to do cool stuff with us.
Based on this, the sweet spot where you want to land your relationship, is in the HOBBY zone. Can you imagine making a super cool friend through your hobby and then falling in love with them, whilst being hyped about the same things?!
Let's say you already have your eyes on skater guy. Your first (or second) date can totally be in a skatepark with some takeaway snack and drinks. This way you are just organically getting to know each other through trial and error and, most certainly, a tonne of laughter. Dating someone through a hobby (whether that's skating, chess or swimming), will allow you to see multiple sides of them. A skate date is great because you will likely get to see how they behave under pressure. This is super important. But why, you might ask.
Because none of us want to date a person who has anger management issues - showcasing it after every failed attempt at a new trick. Or someone who has no motivation and just sits around the skatepark, while blazing up and landing one and a half tricks per hour. Or worst of all, a guy that gives unsolicited advice to everyone. If you don't spot any of these behaviours, you are already on a good track. After the initial skate/vibe check, you can venture into food places and other stuff, but I highly recommend that you go on a first skate date at least once in your life.
Let's say you guys got on really well and want to see each other more. Once you establish dating, you can do regular skate trips to new locations and explore the country… TOGETHER. And that's the key! The togetherness. The simple act of sharing JOY, the joy of SKATING. It's already cool as fuck but having a constant skate buddy who we can share amazing skate memories with and celebrate milestones, like skate anniversaries, is just next level shit.
Not to mention the endless benefits of your next of kin watching you injure yourself and then perfectly describing the trick you were doing to the paramedics. If it's not that serious, they can always drive you to A&E and then kiss it better on the way home, cook you a nice meal, watch a movie with you, and top up your ice pack, all this while still thinking that you are RAD. Who wouldn't want that?
Needless to say, you will be guaranteed a 24hr cameraman. No more "I didn't want to ask" or "I didn't know anyone". He will be happy to film your progress and will, of course, want to see you do better with each new trick you land. That, my dears, is the skater equivalent of a modern Romeo and Juliet. Except, no suicide… unless you know that trick!!
Other super handy traits include knowing how to use ALL the tools that you might need. Although, I do hope all of you Girl Skaters can build your own boards, skates or scooters because we should never rely on a man for maintenance issues.
And for any male readers who might be skimming through this thinking that the idea of dating a skater girl doesn't even sound half bad, I encourage you to look out for single skaters - in a non-predatory way - and try the experience for yourself. If you really want to impress us, instead of flowers, bring a box of bearings to your first skate date. They are expensive, but more importantly, they are a sign of thoughtfulness that only the REALLY fly skater boys can think of gifting.
In theory, this all sounds great, right?! So why don't we all have a skater boyfriend? Well, because it takes time to spot one that is right for us. So, what can we really do? Post content, go skate loads in different skateparks, enjoy the hobby to the fullest with the most amount of excitement and the person who matches this level of energy will come along by force of nature. Or because you've been spamming their Instagram with comments on every skate clip and they decide to message you and invite you out for a date. Either way the outcome is the same, you get yourself a skater boy.
There are lots of us female skaters out here who want to date skater guys, but that doesn't mean we want to date an emotionally immature person. We want to date an authentic man who is fun to be around and has the same drive as us… landing a new trick, getting a good clip (and rolling a fat one after).
I promise, I'm not trying to sweet talk anyone into dating, but the feeling is unmatched. Although my first skate relationship ended after 4 years, it was still the most exciting time of my life and has only encouraged me more to want to stay in the HOBBY zone and explore the men within it. After all, we just want someone who loves us for who we are, someone we can go and have fun with and enjoy life to the fullest, so we might as well do it with a skater boy on our side.
